a valentine love letter

usually i don't post about personal relations, but i've been a bit obsessed with perfecting my work lately, so i figured i'd balance things out by writing about other topics of interest. and so this time i write about men and marital status.

the thing is, it's been an interesting time, being without a solid mate for some years now. it has definitely provided some comedy but also some serious introspection. ever since a final breakup from a very intense and passionate 15-year relationship with one man, i’ve met some, err, interesting males lately - the ones that "sext" right away, the ones that asked if i was single because i was crazy, the ones that wanted me to be their sugar mammas, etc...and meeting them made it pretty easy to stay by myself!

comedy aside, i’ve also experienced a couple of very intriguing “connections”, but alas, neither stuck – whether it was due to bad timing or the fact that i subconsciously made choices that kept me from being a part of a long-lasting pair. sure, i love my friends, family and the people i work with wholeheartedly but i asked myself, “what did it mean to open my heart...in that way?”

a recent article addressing being an unmarried/single woman actually helped me answer this question. it reminded me to embrace this time as an independent person. i am guilty of seeing time as an unmarried as a temporary stop – a time to pass through - but living this way, one can’t experience the important moments that are the true gifts in life that actually feed one’s heart. i wholeheartedly needed to embrace my strengths, weaknesses, failures, accomplishments and my dreams, just like i did before i was with my guy. this was the key - to consistently love my life choices as i am without any relation to one man. by embracing who i am and where i am now, i face the world with honesty and purity, and perhaps one day will be with a mate who will be the best complement to my true self.

of course, for me, there’s nothing better than being in a pair and part of a team – it’s the best feeling to have when you each know you have a mate and partner to protect, care, support and comfort one another. so no, man, i'm not crazy. i’m just not going to settle for anything less than extraordinary, it’s just not my style.

i know i’m different. i don't get excited by chocolate on valentine's day. but sure, i love gestures of stargazer lilies & pony roses and jewelry (on any day). i'm particular as i am open-minded...and like anyone, selfish at my worst and selfless at my best. it took a special man to inspire me to stick with him (and to put up with me, frankly!). and so i continue on, with my sweet doggie as my protector and companion. life is rich and extraordinary full of intangible gifts. no more questions really, just loving gratitude for all that i am and all that is right now.

pilates and pregnancy

ever since i started teaching pilates several years ago, i've had the great fortune of having a very high client retention rate. i've seen my clients move through major life stages, i.e. getting a dream job, sending kids off to school, wedding planning, etc...and one of the more fascinating physical examples of these stages is pregnancy.

being pregnant might be just one of the most powerful processes in which one can find and truly understand the mechanics of one's core. sorry fellas, we might have ya on this one! the muscles, joints and bones that are at a woman's core go through some very drastic changes and its conditioning is the key to making this process as pleasurable as possible.

my teacher jill cassady of the pilates technique has referred to this work as training to keep the endurance up for the marathon of labor. the exercises we do during pregnancy build on the conditioning done before conception and work to maintain the pliable strength of the core muscles as well as protect the changing architecture of the joints. during labor, the transverse abdominus, the innermost muscle of the abdomen that surround our waist, is a prime mover to "squeeze" the baby out. the diaphragm is the key muscle for breathing. the pelvic floor learns to dilate. click here for jill's dvd on pilates for pregnancy!

this picture shows a practitioner doing an exercise on the wunda chair that strengthens the shoulder, core and leg/gluteal muscles by forcing core stability with a dynamic push-up like movement in the upper body along with simultaneous hip & knee flexion in the lower body.

the multitude of safe exercises done during pregnancy include isometric, resistance-based, cardiovascular and active-static techniques that not only condition key core muscles, but also condition the stabilizer muscles of the shoulders, hips and back so that the body remains adaptable.

pilates is amazing for pregnancy. not only is it ideal for core conditioning and healthy joint mobility and stability, it keeps endorphins flowing so that one can stay positive and confident about her ever-changing body. it helps maintain good posture, keeps the body as free from aches and pains as possible and reduces risk of injury, swelling and edema. and of course, the delightful prize (second to the gift of a magical newborn!) is that recovery is that much quicker after delivery!

good thoughts for ourselves and a happy 2012!

"i will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet" - what an awesome quote from mahatma gandhi - and it should also pertain to our own feet, not just others. gandhi's also quoted in this article that one of my colleagues, a coveted yoga tune up teacher, posted recently. it's a great explanation of how our thoughts influence our actions.

metaphysically and spiritually, we all know that it's important to think good thoughts, both for ourselves and others. now science has a cool way of illustrating how and why. if you want to make some changes in your life - or reinforce the great things that are already there - then be mindful of your own thoughts and be your best coach!

barre burning it at equinox west hollywood

happy holidays all! i’ve been having the time of my life this last quarter, with fantastic new clients, new class programs and new schedule that includes a barre burn class at equinox west hollywood!

as described by the club, it’s a “total body workout that slims your hips, tightens your thighs, lifts your seats and mobilizes your metabolism. utilizing ballet movements, intelligent isometrics, challenges in rhythm, range of motion and progressive core training, your body heals, tightens, strengthens, so you look, feel and move better!”

the class definitely lives up to this description so i hope people who are looking for something new to do can come check it out and stick with it!

if you want to condition your body into straight up sexiness and learn how those dancers move with such strength and ease, then this class is for you! i share my background and lifelong love of commercial dance with everyone in class and will help you get there. we use the same foundational moves in pilates that are based in low resistance, precision, flow, control and long lines. we add some dynamic level changes (like high kicks and jumps) for more core destabilizing. it’s only 45 minutes so everyone gets in their cardio and their sculpting “burn” in at the same time.

friday morning workouts are meant to be fun. weekly attendance will get you strong, limber, poised and ready for that photo shoot or in shape for that long-overdue beach trip! come check us out at #equinoxfitness west hollywood 9am this friday, december 16^th for the last class of the year. we get to start back up again January 6, 2012. see you soon!

Work the Kinks and Aches out with Yoga Tune Up Classes in Westwood!

Wednesdays November 30, December 7 and December 14

Time: 6:30p – 7:45p

Location: Wheel of Well-Being

1575 Westwood Blvd. #303

North of Santa Monica Bl.

2 hr meter parking on Westwood Blvd.

South of Massachusetts

Price: $20.00 per class, for info call 323.207.0197

(please bring a yoga blanket or beach towel; mats, blocks, straps are available but bring your own if you can!)

Yoga Tune Up is Fitness Therapy for Everyday Living.

Click here for the intro video. It is an all-encompassing and challenging fitness method that safely restores, rejuvenates and resets bodies of all ages and activity levels. With a foundation in core strengthening, it highlights the healing benefitsof Yoga poses with corrective exercise to mobilize imbalanced areas in the body where pain and injury may occur.

This series of classes will include:

· Yoga Tune UpÒ Therapy Ball work – targeted myofascial release and trigger point therapy to massage deeply into tight areas to relieve aches and pains

· Shoulder Shape Up – eliminate shoulder tension through specific techniques for stability and mobility in the shoulder joint and upper back area

· Hip Heaven – relieve tight hips by increasing mobility, creating spaciousness and releasing tension in the hip joint and lower back area

getting to know your diaphragm as part of your core

the thoracic diaphragm (or simply “diaphragm”) is the primary and most unique umbrella-like shaped muscle for respiration that lies between the thoracic (chest) and abdominal cavities. while difficult to perceive in the body at times, it is also a very important muscle in with respect to exercise, posture and in daily existence. what does this ultimately mean for your workouts? it means that because of its distinctive positioning, this muscle also affects your core conditioning.

the diaphragm’s muscle fibers attach to bones at inner surface of our bottom six ribs, at the front of the body at the sternum and at the back of the body at lower vertebrae. these muscle fibers converge at the central tendon which is attached to the connective tissue that surrounds the lungs. during inhalation and exhalation, the diaphragm (along with the muscles of the ribs) contracts and expands to create a suction to draw fresh oxygenated air into the lungs and then returns to its original shape to expel used air.

with respect to core muscles, the diaphragm is also connected to the postural muscles such as the transverse abdominus (your body’s own built in corset/weight belt), quadratus lumborum (back stabilizers) and iliopsoas (the hip flexors), creating an “upper roof” for these core muscles. its contraction not only affects lung capacity, but also affects the pressure in the abdominal wall and the activity of the abdominal muscles! so, you see, your breathing is indeed affected by your posture and vice versa. when we are aware of the diaphragm and consciously integrate our breathing into our workouts, we are maximizing its function and collaboration with our entire core.

when your fitness instructors remind you about your posture in cycling class or suggest ways in which you can manipulate your breath in yoga or pilates classes, it is more than just what it might seem. they are asking you to condition your core muscles by mobilizing one of the most influential muscles in respiration, posture and core abdominal conditioning. so listen carefully to what they say and key in to what your body is doing on the inside and out. with this focus, you will be able to find this important muscle and get it to work for you!

let it flow, let yourself go

i know, it's been EONS since i've posted...been hard at work and concurrently immersed in training for yoga tune up a wellness modality developed by my teacher, jill miller. i've also been part of the launch of a new rockin' workout called pound . while the two are on extreme ends of the spectrum, both are amazing methods that integrate major core and pilates work. they are also incredible stress relievers.

anyhow, so, i've been busy, a little more anxious than usual, but the pot of gold at the end of this rainbow was that i've learned a lot of life lessons in and out of my training over the past two months, some exhilarating from the start, and some quite humbling before the relief in clarity. the underlying message throughout, was to "let it go". for people who are perfectionists and high achievers, "letting go" might take a little more work - or a little less, actually!

so here's a nice little reminder that i will share - a quote from lao tzu, "by letting it go, it all gets done. the world is won by those who let it go. but when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning."

for the musical take on the concept, of "letting go", click here for the original writers of the famous beastie boys song !